Sunday, October 2, 2011

So precious

Got a call tonight to go to the hospital, my precious and dearest friend, Frances, is dying. The cancer has completely destroyed her liver and her brain. She is on a breathing apparatus, but there is no hope, she has hours or days left. They are keeping her heavily sedated. 

I am asking for prayers for her to be at peace and no pain and for her family, especially her husband and daughter.  I just held them and cried with them. What else could I do?


I held Frances' hand and kept on talking with her, and when I gave her a last kiss goodnight on her forehead she opened her eyes for a few seconds, it was so beautiful. I was able to tell her how much I loved her.


She is being sent home to live her last hours or days.  

I am losing one of my dearest friends, and my heart is so broken and torn.  I love my friend so much and this is so difficult for me.


Thank you for your prayers at this time for the family and friends who adore and love her.




UPDATE:

My precious friend went home to be with the Lord this morning at 5:30. I got the call at 6:30 and rushed back to the hospital to see my beautiful friend for the last time. 

God is my strength. I am grateful to Him, that she is no longer in any pain. 

So, this morning her daughter reminded us that we should, "let her go and rejoice that she is no longer suffering."

Those were Frances' wishes.

21 comments:

D Charles QC said...

I will light a candle at Church on the way home today, a small but sincere token, I have also lost dear friends....

Damien

christian soldier said...

loyal-loving friends are rare- so sad your friend is dying-
heart hugs to you and your friend--

xo-
Carol-CS

Linda said...

I'm so sad your friend is leaving you. I'm praying for peace for both of you, and her family.

Always On Watch said...

Losing one's dearest friend is so hard to bear!

I lost my best friend when my mother died.

Mr. AOW lost his best friend years ago -- to multiple sclerosis.

I will remember you in my prayers, Leticia.

Meanwhile, read Psalm 69, very meaningful in times of bad trouble.

WomanHonorThyself said...

I am thinking of u hun...all my best..xxoo

Leticia said...

Thank, Damien. I truly appreciate that.

Carol, thank you so much.

Linda, thank you.

AOW, thank you for that bible reference, I am leaning hard on the Lord right now.

Angel, thank you.

Jersey McJones said...

My sincere condolences, Leticia.

JMJ

Leticia said...

JMJ, thank you very much.

Teresa said...

I am so sorry to hear of this, Leticia. My deepest sympathy to you and her family.

Leticia said...

Teresa, thank you very much...it means a lot to me.

dmarks said...

My prayers are with you also.

Silverfiddle said...

We just lost a wonderful friend and neighbor a few weeks back. She was elderly, and my wife had been helping her for over ten years. Unfortunately, my wife found her, and I ended up doing cpr until the paramedics arrived.

Needless to say, it was a very bad saturday for the whole family. We miss her very much.

Anyway Leticia, I am sorry for your loss.

You asked, "What else could I do?" and the answer is nothing. You were a friend who was there when she needed you and and you prayed for her. That is all anyone could do.

God bless you, and God bless the soul of your friend Frances.

Leticia said...

dmarks, thank you so much.

Silver, I am also very sorry for your loss, it must have been so difficult trying to save her and your wife happening upon her.

I thank you for your prayers, it has been a most difficult day. This is my first real loss with someone I loved, but God has really kept me strong. Now I must get through the visitation and funeral.

Debbie said...

I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your friend. Ironically I was just at another blog where she lost her long-time friend also. We just don't know how little time we have left on this beautiful earth that God created for us.

Debbie
Right Truth
http://www.righttruth.typepad.com

Leticia said...

Debbie, we really don't. We must treasure each minute with our loved ones because we just don't know.

Thank you for your kindness.

Always On Watch said...

Leticia,
May this remind you about what grief should be:

All Is Well

Death is nothing at all,
I have only slipped into the next room
I am I and you are you
Whatever we were to each other, that we are still.
Call me by my old familiar name,
Speak to me in the easy way which you always used
Put no difference in your tone,
Wear no forced air of solemnity or sorrow
Laugh as we always laughed at the little jokes we enjoyed together.
Play, smile, think of me, pray for me.
Let my name be ever the household world that it always was,
Let it be spoken without effect, without the trace of shadow on it.
Life means all that it ever meant.
It it the same as it ever was, there is unbroken continuity.
Why should I be out of mind because I am out of sight?
I am waiting for you, for an interval, somewhere very near,
Just around the corner.
All is well.

Henry Scott Holland
1847-1918
Canon of St Paul 's Cathedral


My mother instructed that the above be read at her funeral.

As Christians, we know that we shall be reunited with our fellow Christians -- in God's time. Lean on John Chapter 14. That's what I do when I lose a beloved.

Leticia said...

AOW, thank for the link, I read a few of them, but was a bit difficult. And I truly loved the poem you shared with me here. You have no idea how comforting that was.

Most Rev. Gregori said...

I shall pray for your friends soul, and may she rest in peace.

God Bless.

Leticia said...

Abouna, thank you, that means the world to me.

MK said...

My condolences Leticia.

Leticia said...

Mk, thank you, I appreciate that.

Tonight is the visitation and tomorrow is the grave side service.

God will give me strength.